The high road: rocky with a great view

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Thanks Kyh! I'm very excited for the house. I'm really happy that my pup will have a yard again...not quite the 10 acres she had to roam before, but after apartment life, I think she'll be happy. And no coyotes (usually) here.

I had to call XH yesterday. D24 called me in hysterics from work while having a "panic attack". She usually doesn't contact family until there is an issue or she needs something. She will ignore most attempts to reach her, as well. I'm the 'lucky" one who she reaches out to or responds to the most. If anyone has someone in your life with ADD/anxiety/depression and issues with substance use...I'm open to advice.

She is not in control of herself. Her "panic attacks" are becoming daily occurences. I was happy she was going to finally see a therapist (not just get meds from a psych who does no real work with her), but she says she can't afford him. Her landlord also apparently told her they wont renew her lease and she has to leave at the end of next month. And...she insists on starting back to school in April. I got this, tears, and screaming spew interspersed with "I don't want to be alive anymore" and "I can't do this" in a 5 minute call...while she was at work in a treatment center for at risk teens (yeah, I know).

XH has said he wanted to help parent and he would help when she got low enough to ask. She won't ask him, just me. So, I called XH. And woke him up (Sunday afternoon). I never get the prepared, friendly, charming XH at these times. His solution is to send her away to a treatment facility. She isn't able to function on her own; he dealt with her on the ski trip. I explained that those usually have to be voluntary. I asked if we could both try to talk to her in person, united front so to say, and he agreed. I know that this will all have to be on me to arrange, though. He'll just wait for me to tell him when to show up. He says he has a friend who had to get help for his nephew in the manner he's suggested so he would call him. I don't know if he realizes what all this entails and I'm not sure he can handle the research and set-up required...he never has before.

So, excited for house...not loving the other part of life so much right now. Also thinking her diagnoses is off. I'm really starting to think she is Borderline P.D. She's been an interesting kid all of her life. Getting her help as an adult is sure not going to be easy.