Hi Irish - just caught up and wow, seems like your XW is trying to figure out the lay of the land. I hope her therapist is helping her through this process. I think it would help her to have a neutral party explaining the severity of what she's done. It's clear it hasn't hit her.

My thoughts are with you. Keep being a tank.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced