jbroken, I'm sorry you are having a tough time. I am new here as well but have known a long time that things were askew. I think when they leave they feel relief that things are out in the open, I too heard nothing from family and friends even though he was crazy posting on FB and blocked me even though I posted nothing.
Some contact you directly, but if they are passive-aggressive it may be other ways. Mine used to try to use our bank account to send me messages. I am pretty sure they were intentional. He will also make up excuses to contact me every week, rain or shine.
Going dark does make it somewhat easier. It also makes you more mysterious to her. The further he is the better I feel. When he starts circling back I get confused.
Forget about pride. That is gone. I was told that the better I feel about myself the more likely I won't ever want him back. I do see how that could be a possibility.
