It's been a week since I've GD (well, sort of). I'm just wondering, how long should I do this for?
Personally I went dark for over 3 straight weeks before he made contact, but there are MANY on these boards who have been dark for MONTHS! So don't expect results. You should not be going dark for results anyway. You do it for YOU, to get the load of worry off your back. The sooner you can accept that the old relationship is over, and start working on a life without your spouse, the sooner you will start to find peace. You cannot control your spouse's decisions, so everything you do should be about becoming a better you, and don't ever look back over your shoulder to see if they are watching. Same for social media. Do what you would normally do. Just don't post things to try and get a reaction from spouse. It can't matter any more whether they see it or not. Do it for you. It will get easier. I think everyone on here will agree with me on that. Hang in there!
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
