You are newly recovering addict in 12 steps as I understand it. I read porn and 27 days. Porn undermines sexualily and confidence of women like few other addictions. If you have been deep in porn for years ( and I am assuming nothing that would get you arrested, animals kids etc), then your W may feel she doesn't measure up. And she may not trust your limits on it.
That's new to recovery. It's great you are in recovery. Encourage your W to attend any open sessions your 12 step group has in due course.
Really nothing in terms of time. My ex is a compulsive gambler and claimed to be in recovery. There is a temptation for the addict to think that they have stopped line in the sand and it's over. Theirs is the only struggle. Well it isn't. At the point the addict starts to recover, often the loved one starts to fall apart.
Your W might not have started her codependent or loved one journey yet. It is hers.
It's very early days.
You say your W might have an EA or had one.
Your aim here should be a friendly date to let her know she can go at her pace. There is much atoning to do (step 9) before any sort of breakfast. No matter how fast you want recovery, she has her pace.
So nice dinner and keep it light. You go to 12 steps and you intend to keep going. It's enough.
No in depth convo, no heavy alcohol, but great desserts. Behave like a gent, dress the part, smell the part. Leave her wanting another date. Don't go over board on the love bombing. Light bright and breezy.
It's enough.
That's my thinking
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
