Coly23, sorry I only really have time to reply on weekends. I will look upCherry's thread thank you.
Yes he took the news well, but when I asked him how he felt about it he said it would be good for our girls, no mention of his feelings directly, I did not push. My H is in MLC hence the problems in my marriage currently which also brought up my own too issues of abandonment and in hindsight I can see that our marriage though good was codependent on my part.
GAL is helping with that for me. As for OW June 2016, when in high replay their was one and I completely let him get on with it. It didn't last long July and he came back looking to reconcile. I jumped back too soon and then found he was contacting other women on social media, this is November and he is clinging on to edge of bed again, I ask what is wrong he does not blame me but asks for space. I did not confront as the woman where wise enough to stay clear and I stopped snooping cause I was going back into codependent behaviours.
H has been good and seems to connect at times but is still a stone wall 60%. This has me thinking about do I want this in my future. Hence my plan b of getting on with my life as I do not trust him and can not speak to him about it when he is being good. I guess he did cheat on me 7 years ago and we reconciled ,also short lived but I did not heal then. With this more recent actions I have healed 80% , I do love him and I did not cause the affairs at all, I realise it after this point, so I healed more completely.
With the pregnancy the abandonment has flared up again and insecurities, but H is talking future with us and building a stronger financial one, I guess I want a stronger internal one first and he has not verbally said his need for space is no longer there. So I treat him like a loved one but seek closeness.
