Originally Posted By: sellout
It just feels so wrong to "turn my back on her" when she has been there for me in my lowest times over 16 years.


Tell me when your lowest time in 16 years is/was.. I know the answer, and it's not turning your back on anyone or anything... It's about being able to see what's going on and realizing the only thing you can control is the actions that you do, or don't, make.

Detachment is about your emotions NOT being dictated by any action she takes. If your watching a water polo game with two teams you've never heard of (I'm assuming you don't watch water polo), is there any play or foul that anyone on either team could make that would make you react with a negative or positive reaction.

No play matters, because your detached from them, the actions they take Will Not affect your emotions.

That is detachment. You wouldn't be overly nice, mean, or anything else but yourself if you met that team, that is being detached, as if.


M - 9 1/2 years
5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA
10/31/16 - We sold house
01/10/18 - D Finalized