I have a really big philosophical and practical problem with some of this thinking woke up.
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So, in your view, is the apology letter a bad thing?
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Timing is everything on this. Your W may not want an apology in writing. You do this by you taking control of you. In some circumstances an apology can be seen as more control. If I apologise, then W will be obligated to do x or y. It's more attempts at control.
Or do you mean that it is OK for me to acknowledge and own the things that I have done wrong in the past,
As long as you have done so and are taking action to change. The most important person you do this for is yourself for your future.
but have no expectations about it and not to assume that I made her feel the way she felt?
Can I repeat you don't have the power to make W feel anything. This is a fundamental belief, not an assumption.
This belief of control requires addressing otherwise woke up any changes you make are only changes.
Changes change back. W knows this.
Letting go of control of W requires permanent shift and it's a big shift. Once you know then you will never unknow. W owns her own feelings, they are hers as of right.
Originally Posted By: Vanilla
Sit by V and know this frees you to concentrate on you. It's a big job all on its own.
It certainly is. I've been blowing in the wind the last week or so, still haven't got my IC set up. Timing is everything with my work schedule.
Enough said
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
