First, detachment is going to take longer than 3 weeks. You still have work to do to wrap her head around what it mean.
Second, you are using filing for D to snap her out of her funk. It could possibly have an affect on her. Even if it is manipulation that might backfire.
Third, if she decides to work on your M/R, it will need to be taken slowly. Neither of you have the tools to get over this yet.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa