And to your point I guess that really isn't sickness at all. It's her choices and she has the free will to choose whatever she wants.
One of the hardest lessons I had to learn was that while my feelings grew with our marriage, hers didn't...and like your wife's, went in the other direction. You're absolutely right, she made choices due to her own free will. Nothing we can do - or even should - do about that.
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appreciate the bluntness
I don't mean to be overly blunt, but to be blunt is far better than hand-holding and sunshine pumping.
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have been choosing to detach every day. I won't lie... it is hard. But yes, I will be ok. I know that. I don't like my current reality and dealing with the pending divorce. But nothing I can do is going to change the current reality.
By far this was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. By far. Official yesterday. You know something? I'm OK. I cry for the kids only. The ex, well, is just that.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
