Good post indeed but not entirely accurate to my situation. I was/have been the one to mess over over time and she finally had her breaking moment and started her affair. Right for her to do...of course not? I feel she is finally seeing that what she is doing is wrong and could cost her the marriage, family, house, financial freedom, etc... I dont want to jeopardize her newfound thoughts with completely detaching. This would be another up/down that I have been putting her through the lst 2.5 months. Again, not justifying what she is doing but also need to be there for here when she is ready (just like she had been there for me the last 16 years when I continually screwed up). Im not going to shower her with gifts, etc... but if she calls, texts, I will answer and be nice. Does it feel I am playing 2nd fiddle or trying to get my "starting quarterback job" back...yes, and its a bad feeling but I think we may finally be making some progress. Why in the world would she want to spend 5 hours with me last night and hold my hand?
Should I want her back? I have put her though hell and back over a long period of time but we always held it together. Is what she is doing revenge? If so, can i ever forgive her?
Last edited by Cadet; 03/29/1711:53 AM. Reason: Combine posts
Me: 38 Her: 33 Bomb: 1/6/2017 Separated: 1/10/17 Together: 16 Years Son 12 Years Old She and Son still at the house Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17