I hear you LH19. Hear me thought process though...I have been not been there for her for the 16 years of marriage. Absent, abandonment, etc... If i am to detach, isn't that more of the same behaviors? Also, how is she suppose to know what she wants if we NEVER see each other. She made the comment of she misses her husband and wanted to have a time where we could just sit and talk without any drama for once. That happened and felt really good. I understand what seems logical, but do you sometime need to go with your heart? Its not always as black and white as it seems. I would assume that within the next three weeks (until divorce date) the date I setup (she never would set a date), I will know where her heart is. IN the meantime I have to be a standup man, father and friend no matter what. No matter what happens, i must treat her with respect as she is the mother of my child and we will be connected for the rest of our lives. I think a "Semi-detachment" is what is in store for me at the moment. She has in the last week shared her breakdown moments with me, shared "our songs" with me, held my hand. Is that not showing that she is considering reconciling?
Me: 38 Her: 33 Bomb: 1/6/2017 Separated: 1/10/17 Together: 16 Years Son 12 Years Old She and Son still at the house Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17