Plain and simple is I love this woman. This love is not a feeling but a deep commitment. I meant it when I said 'death do us part' and for "sickness and in health."
To you it is, but she no longer feels that way. Can it be regained? Maybe. And that's a big maybe.
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Right now she is extremely sick
No, she is not. She wants out. Saying someone is sick is justifying their actions through mental issues. And I should know because I've dealt with more mental issues than most on here due to what my ex went through. However, at the end of the day she is an adult, and well-functioning at that. The decision to leave and the subsequent affair, was a well thought-out one...it wasn't made over night.
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If she were to return the fear would be I do not know what woman is returning. Is she the the woman that cheated on me and feels entitled
She is not the woman that you dated and married. She grew. So did you. While your love grew over time, hers didn't - and went in the reverse direction. Sorry, but it is what it is.
I get what you are saying, I really really do. I was there. I thought the same things. But, you are trying to process her line of thought through your own eyes, and it just doesn't work that way.
Can you two reconcile? Sure. But what you have to do is stop worrying about what she is doing or how your actions will affect her or whatever else it is you worry about. What you need to do is take care of yourself. GAL. Do something. Hit the gym - the punching bag works wonders and exercise is the single best - and healthiest - anti-depressant there is. You have this. OWN YOUR ROAD.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
