Will she turnaround and say 'see your fine and doing great, so let's sign the papers and move on'. Any advice?
Sorry, hit submit too soon. Get out and GAL. I can't stress this enough. It won't push her towards divorce, or stop her, for that matter. It isn't about her, so don't make your life choices around someone who has done what she has to you. Let me ask you this, if doing something makes her stay out of guilt, then that guilt will turn to resentment over the years...is that what you want if that were to happen?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.