I thought our marriage was fine, and I have to wonder how harmful it was, because I did it throughout our relationship, from day one, and she stayed with me
Why do you think we have said she's been planning on leaving for much longer than you know or are willing to admit? This statement speaks more than volumes. Much more. As 25 and Kaizen said, you're keeping score and repeatedly doing things that she complained of is one reason why she left. She grew tired of your crap. Period. Not much else to say...she complained, yet you kept on. You kept score. You made it her fault. Whatever.
Can you get her back? Honestly? Why would she even want to come back? Can you give us one good reason why she would even consider coming back?
Another thing I have noticed in your posts is that you consider all of us attacking you - was this your mentality in your marriage, too?
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I'm not defending her affair, but I am not buying your powerless routine, either.
Interesting point, 25. Wsh - did you play the powerless child in your marriage?
I'm sure that you'll see us as attacking again, but we aren't we are finding that the only route we have is through the 2x4. If it ruffles your feathers, then so be it. But, its not and we wouldn't...not even me.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
