First time posting!

[loulou2]

So in a nutshell, BD was nov 4th,2016...had a great summer vacation, and when we got back, from sep.
1st walking on eggshells everyday, he clammed up!
So I was trying to stay out of his hair as the beginning of the school year is always difficult, he`s a school teacher! 1 week in Oct he was a little normal, then out of nowhere, wants a divorce direct he`s interested in someone else, but hasen`t acted on it yet....until the next day, left the house at 4pm without a word and came back 6am the next morning, down hill since then!

Married for 22 years, together 26!
We all have ups and downs, but I thought we were solid!
So the house sold in 5 days, signed a paper at the notary so he could put a bid on a much smaller house for him, signed papers at the lawyer Dec22nd!
Should be final between April and June!
Found this site in Jan!
Made many mistakes, begging and such, and at times still can`t hold back the tears!
Problem is he`s now living with OW, stares at me with beadie eyes, I don`t know who he is anymore!

Loved my husband so much, but fear all is lost, and to top it off am an American living in Paris for the last 22 years!
So packing up to go home! His family have not contacted me since Nov.
If this process didn`t take so long, I would stay!
But reading everything on this site, I don`t think my health could take years of this!
Lost 22kilo`s in 7 weeks, down to 51.
Didn`t weigh that when I was 13 years old.
So been taking advice and forcing myself to get out and see people, and trying to GAL, very difficult.
So my question is Could this be an exit affair, or full blown MLC.
We were happy, and this OW met him in Jan 2016 playing music, brass band stuff, they don`t even get paid, but play alot!
The whole group went on vacation to play music for 10 days in June 2016.

He really does seem to be depressed and in torment!

I will stand for my marriage but from afar in the US.
And pray for a reconnection!