So - I reach out to our marriage counselor today - she says to me: Your wife is suffering from major trauma in her past. She was so neglected by her parents that she is seeing things through horrible lenses - and I'm really sorry, you have to see her as a sad and hurt 7 year old girl - be compassionate, detach, just be kind and gentle and give her room. You may have no play here. I asked her if I should tell my wife, its either me, or her individual therapist, but Im not sticking around with her individual therapist in the picture. She says of course it would be amazing if Tammy stopped seeing her therapist, but 60/40 she picks the therapist over you.
This is so tragic. All I can do is pray for patience and guidance and help from people in my path...
Agree you should read the MLC homework and meet the folks over there (I moved from newcomers to MLC too). At least you have a good marriage counselor...
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
