WW with affair moved out 4+ weeks ago

[15Stang]

Mowgli,
Thank you for the insight and the encouragement. I have been choosing to detach for the past 3 days. My feelings haven't caught of with my choice but I know they will. It's hard but I know this is what I need to do.

As for the 2x4.... Yes, you may be correct. While during the past 2 years I thought she was being truthful I now question the whole thing. I believe the affair never stopped in her heart which is why we are where we are. It's also why she struggled to show true empathy and remorse through our recovery. Right now I do not have answers to what did or did not happen. I may never have answers. As for today and my current sitch it really doesn't matter as I cannot go back and change the past.

I will leave the door open a crack. I do understand what you mean about not staring at the crack. This is part of detaching.

I won't be purchasing a bike. We actually bought a brand new 2015 mustang last year. It will be bittersweet enjoying it without her but I'm looking forward to winter being over and enjoying some drives.

Thanks for the encouragement.
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