This is an inspirational letter from a woman who turned things around in her marriage. She and her husband came out to The Divorce Busting Center in Boulder for a private intensive session with Michele. That session changed their lives.
Dear Michele, I have to tell you about things since we returned home from our time with you in Boulder. This evening Mike and I had our first "date" since we returned home. We both were tired following a very full day. I suggested that if Mike wanted to we could reschedule. He was quite adamant that we should keep our date, but that we should keep it low key and he wanted to be home early. We went out to dinner and had a really lovely time. We laughed and talked. It was great. Many times during the last several days we've had good, productive conversations, and he has frequently said "Why is this the first time I'm hearing this." I'm unsure how to answer that, because the topics have all been things I'm pretty sure we've discussed before. I'm not sure which of the skills we learned that are making the difference, but the difference in our communication is profound. During our last hour with you, you referred to me as a (I think) psychotic optimist. I wasn't sure if I liked that at the time. Then I realized that it had been so long since anyone has referred to me as an optimist of any kind, that I should accept it in the spirit it was intended and realize that it is yet another indicator of the changes I've made in my life. So, if I'm a psychotic optimist I thank God for that! Also, I realized that if I can't visualize us in a better place - a much healthier relationship, I can't make it happen. I've begun re-reading a book on forgiveness and have begun the process of forgiving myself for my depression. It feels amazing! It seems so strange to not know where my marriage is headed and yet to feel so on top of the world! Thank you Michele, for everything! You have such a gift! _________________________
