Thank you Sunny! I hope so. I usually feel better when the weather gets better. I'm not really sure how much growth I've actually done though. I was different in that rebound relationship I was in. I did not communicate my needs. I did not complain. Because that is what I did with ex. I just kind of failed to attach. It could also be because that relationship was just totally wrong for me too though, and I knew that deep down.

So really, maybe its just that each partnership has its own unique set of dynamics at play. Almost like a new job we have to learn how to navigate through. Sure, there are some of our own personal issues that we might have to change or we will be terminated, like showing up late, or arguing with your boss. But then sometimes people just get laid off for reasons that are unfair and out of their control, like they earn too much, ageism, company needs to increased their stock values etc.

My first job out of school sucked. I was underpaid and insecure and did not work well in the small, privately owned setting I was in. My boss was a mentor for me though while I was in school and I felt a loyalty to him so it was hard for me to leave, even though there was not much there for me. I left and took a new job without really researching or thinking it through.(side not, my ex was so supportive of me during this transition time frown ) It was awful and much worse then the job I had initially left. After a month I found the job I am currently in and I love it. It was just a really good fit. I have been there a long time and I really enjoy going to work. I deal with the few things that I might not love because the rest is really good. I generally feel valued and appreciated.

Hopefully my love life will follow suit.

M: 42
H: 43
Twins age 5
WAH in summer