I guess it makes sense the MLCEr would want an easy fix especially since they only live in partial reality
I like the approach of encouraging her and letting her know you have confidence that she can reconnect with the girls and it may take time as trust was broken
I would speak simply to her with as little words as possible to get the thought across
Good luck you are doing very well you also need to remember this will take time so dont give up she seems like she is in baby stages to come out and she may go back in many times
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