Hi Irish, sounds like you are generally doing well and I'm pleased for you. Also, you're calmly dealing with quite a lot of contact from your XW, so credit to you.

I think it is a compassionate and kind thing to provide a sort of bridge between her and her children, as you are doing.

She's in a tough spot for sure. Your girls don't sound as though they would want to reconnect if OM is still in the picture. She gave up a lot for OM, and may not be ready to give him up? It's a bit of a catch 22 for her perhaps?

I think reflecting the action question back to her like Bttrfly suggests is a good idea. I think the kind of action to take is all about the kind of life we want to live going forwards. But she may not be in that place yet, you know?

I do think the direction of travel is a better one though - but it is very early days too...

Take care and have a great time at the parade smile

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus