Won't he need to refinance to get her name off the deed and all?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
The way my attorney has set up the settlement is that the property will become my asset and the deed will reflect this. We have no language in the settlement that I need to buy her out or even remove her name from the mortgage loan. So I get a personal loan to pay her the 50% equity we have in the home. Right now my guess is we might have $30,000 in equity which means I'll have to pay her $15,000.
Me 38, Her 40 T-14, M-13, No kids BD-1 4/14- EA/PA BD-2 10/14- EA BD-3 2/17- EA/PA W Moves out 2.10.17 in with AP W Served D papers 3.6.17 Divorce Final- 5.23.17
Either way I'd prefer to have my W get out of the affair fog but her AP is pushing her through this. She has pretty much shut out her close friends. They are having a tough time with this and it is somewhat comforting to see them grieving the loss of their friendship and our marriage.
Me 38, Her 40 T-14, M-13, No kids BD-1 4/14- EA/PA BD-2 10/14- EA BD-3 2/17- EA/PA W Moves out 2.10.17 in with AP W Served D papers 3.6.17 Divorce Final- 5.23.17
Be happy that you didn't have any children. Financial loss is small compared to losing control over the kids.
So very true. I hate losing my wife and the financial stuff too, but the impact on the kids is horrible.
^Truth
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I am glad we don't have kids. However it doesn't make this any easier from my viewpoint. I feel terrible for the OM's 2 boys. I was very close with them and expected to be a part of their lives... Graduations, weddings, etc. I was uncle 15stang even though I wasn't related to them. I know this is crushing them. The OM's mom had an affair and left his dad when he was younger. We talked about it a lot when we where still friend and how much it crushed him.
Me 38, Her 40 T-14, M-13, No kids BD-1 4/14- EA/PA BD-2 10/14- EA BD-3 2/17- EA/PA W Moves out 2.10.17 in with AP W Served D papers 3.6.17 Divorce Final- 5.23.17
this whole situation is tough.... I miss my W terribly. I keep choosing to let go but I can feel there is anger underneath my choice to keep moving forward. My W has shifted her personality so much with her recent choices. It is tough to accept the person she is right now. I do hope she comes to her senses sooner than later but only God knows if this will happen. My decisions still need to be about me and what is best for me.
Me 38, Her 40 T-14, M-13, No kids BD-1 4/14- EA/PA BD-2 10/14- EA BD-3 2/17- EA/PA W Moves out 2.10.17 in with AP W Served D papers 3.6.17 Divorce Final- 5.23.17
I am glad we don't have kids. However it doesn't make this any easier from my viewpoint. I feel terrible for the OM's 2 boys. I was very close with them and expected to be a part of their lives... Graduations, weddings, etc. I was uncle 15stang even though I wasn't related to them. I know this is crushing them. The OM's mom had an affair and left his dad when he was younger. We talked about it a lot when we where still friend and how much it crushed him.
Good grief. I know the feeling. However, not your circus and not your monkeys. You work on you and don't worry about the other stuff.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
My W has shifted her personality so much with her recent choices. It is tough to accept the person she is right now. I do hope she comes to her senses sooner than later but only God knows if this will happen. My decisions still need to be about me and what is best for me.
