Wife left two days before our wedding anniversary!

[jbroken]

Leahsue,

Thanks for your support and your kind words.

I've gone through Sandi's rules but I feel it doesn't apply in this situation.

My wife has gone back to her mother's in another city, in another country.

She was adamant about divorce. What she did and the way and the way she did it. It's been six days and I'm still in shock.

We were having problems for a couple of years and we did have separation for three months - 03/11/16 to 3/02/17. But from the moment she left I have been trying to win her back. When she came back home, I did everything possible to show her that I was changing - with words and actions. She didn't respond to anything. In fact she did everything in her power to make us fight, be uncooperative, stop intimacy. And now this approximately six weeks later.

I don't know how much more of this I have to bear. And I feel ashamed.





Folks,

I just happened to stumble upon one our mutual 'friends' posts and guess who is happy and smiling in it - my wife! This is on Sunday when I was pouring my heart out to her in a reconciliation message.

This with the same friend who was in our home six months ago on a holiday, spent Christmas and New Year's with us last year. The same friend that wrote '...to the best couple I know' on our last anniversary. I sent her heartfelt messages when her father passed away in December. She is divorced and made her way back to our life a couple of years ago. Introduced my wife to click of single and other divorced women. I've had a hunch for a while that she has had a big influence in my wife's change in behaviour over the last year or so and ultimately this decision. Just feel betrayed.

This just keeps getting more painful by the minute friends.