STBXW is in the other room sleeping. We are at a mutual friends place. Met today to eat lunch and work on taxes a bit. Mutual friend said I seemed a lot better. I was making conversation and have been working hard on finding a good job. I've been going to a lot of interviews.
But boy, is this hard! Seeing her for the first time in 4 weeks, brought back a flood of emotions. I really really missed her. So much that I want to say and ask, and talk about, but I suppose at the same time, there is nothing left to say. We are going to dinner later when she wakes up. And we'll hang out tomorrow. I have not been clingy, or asking her to hang out a lot. I've been focused on interview preparation and see her when time allows.
The urge to talk about the relationship, and convince her that her bf is all wrong for her is strong. DB'ing is tough. How are you supposed to validate if your STBXW says she misses you? What do you say if she wants to complain about bf, or if she tells you how great things are going, or how happy she is?
Hello James17,
Are you still with us?
You have really good questions about validating and how to handle when she talks about her BF around you. How did the dinner go that night?
You are working with a DB Coach, right? It's a good idea to regroup with your coach now that you have seen her and taken care of taxes.
Please call me at 303-444-7004 when you would like to speak with your DB Coach again and we can look at your options.
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