Tell your W that you understand that she wants to D you and that she is eager to do so as quickly as possible. Say whereas it is not what you wantED, you accept and respect her choice and are not or will not stand in her way to getting it. If you want you could state you need a little time to organise X, to process Y or to do Z. State this is to prepare in the best way possible so that D goes as well as possible for everyone involved.
Best wishes.
I feel that I am at that point now...I have been kind of stalling for a while now on some of the financial aspects of things and I only have two ways to go on them. One would give her a lump sum and the other would pay her in installments over 8 years until my youngest is 18yo. I guess my fear is that once my attorney puts that on paper all that is left is for her to sign them...then our M will be done with. That is the fear talking I know, but it is real.
I guess since my memories are clear, I remember a happy M that we have shared for 22+ years. We have had our ups and downs like most married couples, but have be great for the most part. Since she is walking thru this fog, she has re-written our life as totally bad. None of our family or friends can believe this is going on with us. I guess MLC is the other silent killer. It sneaks up behind you and wham!!! I think I was hoping for some divine intervention while we have been separated, but it isn't in his timing yet.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
