Your h is a negative nelly right now and nothing looks bright and happy to him. He's depressed and it's all about the black and white of his situation...not gray area in the mix. Also, he's baiting you, hoping you'll argue w/him. Don't give him the satisfaction of letting him see it annoys you. The less you react, the better.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
