He thinks that she is making a mistake and wants her to know that separation, divorce, doesn't have a happier ending.
So, really this is pursuing and pushing from someone else, no? And she will see it as directed by you. What is to be gained?
You are probably right. She initiated contact with him to talk though and she has to know that he feels this way after his experience with his fiance. The way my wife works is that she makes a decision and goes with it. Blinders on, full speed. Planting that seed and having her hear it (that she isn't dealing with the real issues) will replay over in her head and eventually she will really ask herself if she is. I cannot be the one to say it and have not asked anyone else to because I'm sure she will think it's directed from me. Him reading her a letter from his ex, two years later, saying she took her problems and transposed them onto the relationship and it's her biggest regret; I dunno if it's right for me to let him or not, but she needs to hear it.
I think this is one of those things in the book where "you know your spouse best" comes into play. But I guess I'll find out.
Today's snowstorm is going to make for a long day
Together 7 years Married 3 Said she was taking long way home late January Left to get some space 2/19/17 BD 3/1/17 ILYB
