WH came back. Piecing. Almost at 2 year mark.

[Train]

I think it's time I roll up my sleeves and tackle this chit a litttle harder.

Yep. One of the hardest parts about these ordeals is realizing that we contributed to the cracks in the foundations of our Ms, and we DO have to put in the work - and it IS work - to piece it back together. Otherwise, it's dead in the water, even if we are living in the same house and sleeping in the same bed.

And there was OW--pursing, validating, bad mouthing me, and stroking his ego.



1. I was controlling, even when he was being accomodating.
2. At times he felt like I talked down to him.
3. I created free time for myself and he wasn't able to do that.

Good list! I think us girls have a lot of that ^^^ in common. At least it seems so, from things I've read over the years. Try letting go a little. My motto, in many circumstances, has become: "Sometimes peace is better than being right." And remember Wonka stressing the importance of being "breezy"? I've carried a lot of that with me into piecing. Sometimes, for us controlling folks, doing nothing is everything we need to do ... a perfect 180.

It's a sunny day and we just took the dogs for a walk at the beach.

FUN!