you know my friend, she sounds so much like my exh in that exchange.
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I think it won't change anything if I email, text , write on paper to them ... it all will end the same. they want nothing to do with me because I am with someone else. Anyway , I'm way too busy at work. Later.


Here's where this mode of communication fails everyone. Tone can not be conveyed. I cannot tell you how many times I've heard exh say something similar. It kept him from making any real effort to save our marriage. My DB coach said it's from a place of despair and hopelessness. They don't think anything will or can change and don't know what to do or how to do it, so they focus on the immediate - in her case, work.

I know you were put off but I think it's from a place of real sadness and depression. Think Eeyore. "We'll never make it" any of those depressed characters. I don't think Mother's Day will be the next visit. I wouldn't be surprised if you heard from her tomorrow.

Your response was perfect. So proud of you! xoxoxoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver