Journalling and thanking you all for offering feedback.
Your comments really help me and they are all so very true. I appreciate your honesty and frankness
An update on my situation. On the 20th of February WAH told me that he broke up with his GF. He said he wanted to spend more time with me and of course that made me happy. Since that day we have spent a lot of time together. Practically everyday we see each other or text/talk on the phone. We have gone on a couple of family outings as well.
We haven't had any relationship talks and I make sure not to argue about anything unimportant. If it is about finances or kids, we have quickly solved the issue and moved on.
He has said a couple of things that make it seem like he is wanting to have me more permanent in his life. During spending time at my place he said "I really miss having your cooking and spending time with you here at the house" Another time he said "The most content I've been in the past year is sitting with you having lunch and us just being together"
We have been in this situation before over the past three years. The positive changes I have made are:
1. I haven't pursued 2. I don't ask about his whereabouts 3. I am always happy and smiling when we're together
I hope we are moving in the right direction but I also keep all of your words in mind. I'm taking it slow and I actually am ok if it doesn't work out. I have written goals per DR and most of them have already been met. Which is a good sign. BUT like I said, we have been here before and the progress dissolved overnight.
M-49 H-52 D-21 D-20 D-17 Married 20 years Separated - Since 01/2014
