LITB, did she turn into a different person, that showed an anger and coldness that you had never seen before? When the book talks about the "alien", I know that all too well, but I prefer the term "demon" or "monster". I think what happened is that my wife probably cheated on me, and felt so bad and guilty about doing it, that to cope with what she had done, she had to make herself hate me and blame me for what she did, so that she wouldn't have to feel bad about it. You know, had I been a better husband, she wouldn't have done it.


M: 33, W: 30 @BD
M 7, T 10
BD: Early Dec
W left: Late Dec
W got stuff: Late Jan
W sent S papers: Mid Feb
OM cnfrmd: Late Feb

Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.