WH came back. Piecing. Almost at 2 year mark.

[Sotto]

Hi Blu, I'm sorry to read your post today and here are my thoughts - along with a big hug for you ((((Blu))))

Piecing is really tough - everyone says it - and if it isn't tough, there's probably some rug sweeping going on...

I would be as authentic as you can with your H. You really appreciate the effort and commitment he shows - I know you have posted that here.

Also, you are struggling to get beyond all that has happened. That isn't surprising. Because infidelity is truly a trauma that undercuts those things we held most dear and thought were secure.

I recall a highly respected poster - I think Underdog - posting about a set of CDs on forgiveness that were a real life changer for her. I'll see if I can find that and post if for you..

Also, I agree with what is posted above. I think his behaviour is his to own and he needs to invest in helping you (and himself) heal from these events. Your own feelings about what has happened and towards him are yours to own, process and work through.

Have you guys considered Retrouvaille as an alternative to MC?

And finally, you have come a long way (whilst things feel rough right now) - why not work on the basis of - nothing needs to be decided today - I need to think about that - and just give yourself a little time to work things through..

Xx