How to piece?

[GH31]

I'm hoping someone who has begun piecing or has successfully pieced can help me.

My H left in over 8 months ago after telling me 2 months before that that he no longer loved me. It isn't the first time he's gone, he left for 4 months 9 years ago.

A couple of weekends ago he said he wants to "work it out" and get back together because, "after all this time he still cares about me, hates to see me cry and likes the family feel when we all go out (with our 2 children).

And what about everything else? Is that all a marriage is to him? All of the benefits and none of the responsibility?

The trouble is I am now not sure that I want him back.

No surprises there.

I don't know if this is how everyone feels. When he came back before I didn't feel like this, I was desperate to have him back, this time I'm not.

You don't have to take him back if you don't want to.

He wants us to go on holiday as a family and "take it from there".

Sounds like typical wayward spouse selfish babble to me.

I am now back to not sleeping at night because I feel that I don't want this but I know that the children would love him to come home and so now I feel like the bad one for being unsure. Help!

Piecing, should you choose that path, is for you alone. Not for your kids, not your husband, not anyone else but you. Take it extremely slowly, for a period of weeks or months, before you decide that piecing is viable. Cadet is right - if it's going to work you and hubby are going to need some brand new information - i.e. counselling.