Pregnant , mlc .. Here we go

[25yearsmlc]

Dear Lostin

So sorry you are here. However, I'm a little confused as to what the issues are in your m, specifically.

You think your h is looking for an OW, but there's isn't one now, and he seems excited about the pregnancy...? (I'm sorry if you already posted this elsewhere.)

Why do you want out of the m? Can you give examples or some history or why you feel your h is looking for an OW?

And how long have you been married, what age are your kids, etc.?

Just for some background.

Hey Willdo, i do not mind answering any questions once asked. my relationship with my family of origin is strained cause of H's antics and my decision to stand for my marriage,

What does "stand for" your marriage, mean to you? You mentioned that you are not implementing much of DB, other than reading the 37 guidelines.

Do you ever feel as if you are waiting for things to improve without actually doing anything different?

Can you explain why you want a sep or D now?

my mother is excited but she is a narccassist and this is now her pregnancy, wants to be with me all the time.

She actually drains me more than mlc, and has been doing it all my life, so when I started my 180's limited contact was one of them.

What are the 180's you have done with your h?

I thrive well without the belittling I have gotten all my life and I don't blame her she is also a product of her environment.

H is physically here, sometime mentally other times dead in the eyes,



Is he depressed? If so, will he go see someone? Can you explain what you mean that he's "physically there", and "dead in the eyes"?

What would you like him to do, differently? Can you give examples? Have you told him?

And I'm just curious if you have spoken about your feelings to him or to a T. It think it would help.

so I just keep my focus on me most times even when in his presence, though but necessary, he tries to pull me into his moods. No sir I have my own stuff to deal with.

I have a few lifelines though whom are not blood related, so I am good.