Is that what you really want,.......... or are you honestly wanting the guy he was when you M him?
I want H, the man I married. H says that that man is long gone and he had to evolve for his career.
I'm so sorry. But I think for now and the foreseeable future, this^^ is the truth.
You cannot fix or change, or further enable him.
I just cannot imagine him suddenly slapping his forehead and saying "Oh, now I get it! I want to be a great guy again. And a better dad than I was before..."
I ache for you.
Do you have a support system you can call in for help?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
