Sandi2 or Starsky309..advice on Wayward Husband

[DonH]

"I want H, the man I married. H says that that man is long gone and he had to evolve for his career."

I'm curious why it is you don't want to take him at face value when he says these things? Why don't you believe him when he says this? In this case I think he's telling you the truth!

I've worked in the music industry since I've been 15 years old. My dad drove me to gigs befor I had a drivers license. I don't want to paint with a brod brush here but I've seen first hand how these singer front man types operate. That is not me, it really is not but even I had these opportunities thrown t me and I was only in the band backing up the local celeb. He's screwing these women - I will bet my life on it. Perhaps not all, maybe not even most but if they threw themselves at me and I refused most of the time what do you think is going on with him? The wives of the guys I know who dud this either had no clue, or like you did not want to believe it.

I don't want to make this worse for you but you can't change him. At this point you first need to accept that what you THINK may be going on really is. It's not an act for his career, it's who he is and what he wants. Don't let him play you like this. Do what is best for you - he certainly will not.