Last night I attended a Christian Conference, my soul needed it. While there, so many thoughts and questions invaded my mind.
"Besides our kids, what DO we have in common now?" I love my new job and where I am in life, I love my friends, I love my relationship with my kids, there isn't much to be sad about, I just wish I had someone to share it with. Had it not been for the first separation, I would not have found myself again and re-discovered what makes Gal522 tick. GAL was necessary because at one time H was my life, building his career and when he was gone I felt like I had nothing--I didn't even know who I was. Strangely, GAL caused us to live even more separate lives. Because I was committed to school and eventually working, I wasn't free to drop everything to travel and be with him. Early mornings with the kids, meant no partying the night before, besides I was the only one responsible for them. When we first reconciled, we spent a lot of time with our friends--I had to juggle being the playmate he wanted with the mother I needed to be. Those friends were just couples then, H and I, the only married ones w/ kids. As time went on, those friends married and progressed to the next stage of life with children. H moved on to a new group of single friends. In order to spend any quality time with H, it was on his terms and on his timeline, which meant, come party with me and my boys, lets go to this mixer even though it conflicts with the kids activities. I didn't decline every invitation, but his pace of life became exhausting.
Can a MR exist with two ppl living completely separate lives?
