Hi Huddy, just thinking about your posts from this week..
25yearsMLC once posted that it is helpful to think about how you would like your life to be if your spouse were truly gone (which they are for now.) And you had fully grieved for them, and were happily single and not thinking about dating someone else just yet...
How would you be spending your time? What would your home life be like? And work? What dreams would you be following? What kind of relationship would you have with your kids? How would you enjoy your leisure time? What would bring you real joy and a sense of peace? What would you be learning? How would you be looking after your health? Finances? And so on....
I have seen posters really think through this process and manage to put their spouse and relationship successfully on the back burner. You said in a previous post that there's more work to do on detachment....might something like the above help do you think?
Have a great weekend anyway
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
