Sotto, skyhigh, 25yearsmlc ...... thank you for all of your comments and opinions. I am so very thankful for this place
I made sure to read the detachment thread and all of the comments that everyone made to me about when we did have the conversation, and it really helped me to stay calm.
Sotto....you are right when you say it was my need for reassurance. I know I don't need him in my life I WANT him in it, but I cant just sit around and wait. I have lived by myself and supported myself through all of this so I know I can do it. I have made a promise to myself that I would leave him alone and focus on me.
25yearsmlc....as far as us needing to have a conversation was about us needing to discuss why the A happened, how we got to that point. But I also need to think if it is really that important to see where we used to be instead of trying to move forward.
Unfortunately we have already had the painful gritty conversation about what happened during the A and all of those painful details. I just had to know certain things and now I regret it because I have those images in my head. I would tell people not to have that conversation....it does no good.
Skyhigh....I remember you telling me that if I just listened he would keep talking and that is what he did. I am going to read the pursuit and distance thread again.
Not going to lie, it did hurt me a lot when he said those mean things to me But I cant let that stop me from trying to move forward, or to dwell on them.
But I cant let that stop me from trying to move forward, or to dwell on them. 
