brizz, are you a "cheat and we're done" person, or did you file for divorce to wake up your wife?
I guess I was at the time. I certainly see it's not so black and white now. Until you go through this you kind of see these situations as someone cheating means they're this awful, terrible person right to their core. But while someone can certainly act that way while in their fog, they can come out of it and realize how wrong they were. It's tough.
Filing made my W mad. Very mad. She told me on Sunday that she was meeting with a lawyer and was thinking she didn't want a divorce, like it sunk into her a bit and she had doubts. Then her lawyer saw my filing that had just posted online and she said that made it easier for her. So it may have been the opposite of a wake up call. There's so many different divergent paths things can go based on the decisions you make that you can drive yourself crazy thinking about them.
