You know what got me through the hardest times? I went out and joined a club a week or two after BD. I met weekly with people that were previously complete strangers. These people knew me as "Kaizen" and not my ex's spouse. These were my friends that knew me. I spent 6 hours every week enjoying their company and spending 0 energy thinking about my ex, at least for that time. I would drive home from work every day and think about driving into traffic or driving off a bridge. I felt like if my ex didnt value me, then I must not have any value. This group helped me get back my self-worth. It helped give me the strength I needed to do what needed to be done to give my marriage the best chance I could.
What club was this, Kaizen?
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.
