I find that you can't believe much of what they say and only 1/2 of what they do. Actions speak louder than words and this not only applies to us...but to them as well. Try to look at him as a teenager, one who has his hormones bouncing all around. Teens like to get reactions out of parents, so step back and just listen to what he says...but if something really is out of kilter, then say something.
You can rationalize w/someone who isn't on the same level right now. Mind reading will get you absolutely no where fast. In fact, it can create anger, frustration, anxiety, disappointment, etc. Keep those expectations at zero and you are absolutely correct on one thing...he's going to do whatever he needs to do to find himself.
Keep the focus on you!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
