So Confused and Conflicted (4)

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Hey Wsh,

You have the ability to influence the dynamics of your sitch. It begins with you. It really does.

You have a plethora of great advice. It is up to each person receiving the advice to either apply it or discard it. If you are being honest with yourself, how much of the advice that has been given to you, have you followed?

My sitch changed for a few reasons.
-I did the work on improving myself, and that work continues daily.

-I had detached and moved on(this took time). I had accepted that my M/R was over.

-The first reconciliation didn't work, because my W did not work on herself. I was more prepared for the second BD. Heck, I saw it coming and was preparing for it before it happened and I was okay with it. NOTE: She did work on herself before the second recon.

-The second time, even though my W wanted out, I ended up being the one pushing the divorce to get finalized. We were only a couple of signatures away.

-One thing that I don't discuss much on the forums, is that I was dating someone at the time. I wasn't doing it to change my sitch. I had moved on and was excited about the future. I'd be lying if I didn't admit that it didn't play a role in changing my circumstances.

Ultimately, it begins with you. That cannot be emphasized enough.

It shouldn't be someone else's responsibility to make us happy, because we are all imperfect and will undoubtedly fail. Our happiness, is our responsibility.

What are you gonna do to get there? What have you done to make progress in your journey? Have you cut your hair?