I sgree...mind reading can take you down some roads that will lead to frustration and disappointment. Keep your expectations of your spouse to zero. She can change her mind on things in a split second and have no reason for those changes.

The best thing to do is to keep the focus on you. Live your life to the fullest, work on yourself and be happy w/the person you are or are becoming. The changes you make will need to be changes that become a permanent part of your life. Your spouse will know if you are making changes just to get her back or not.

If you have hobbies or a "to do" list that has been sitting around collecting dust, then now is a good time to pull it out, dust it off and start working on those items.

Again...keep the focus on you.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.