In the UK- PT22 - anyone for a glayvar?

[NDY]

Hi mate

Roist has it spot on. Stop looking over your shoulder to see what she's doing. Just live your life.

I think my problem is that I don't see manipulation from reconnection. Take Saturday where she wanted me to come over. I saw that as an example of maybe trying to reconnect, but it was probably self pity and manipulation.

Why read so much into it? It could have been neither manipulation nor self pity and it clearly wasn't about re connection. You're still clinging onto that rope mate. We can all see it.

So, why did she make an effort? Do see the struggle here? When, or how, can you differentiate between somebody reaching out, or, somebody pulling to see the reconnection?

Perhaps just to feel better? Just because she want's to look and feel nice has nothing to do with you nor your impression of her. People just like to look nice. Nothing complicated in that.

The point is that there isn't a struggle to wrestle with here. If she wanted to re connect you would have zero doubt in your mind because she would most definitely let you know what she was thinking. While that doubt remains assume re connection is off the cards and apply the good advice you are getting here. Detach, drop the rope, get on with your life.

Peace