WAS vs MLC..not sure it really makes a difference

[skyhigh]

Skm, wow you did great! You showed him that you changed.

Don't be upset by his comments on how are his views on you right now, he is still in full replay. My WH used to be quite "mean" too, so I know how hurtful it can be which is not the case anymore but it took a while to reach that point, so be patient, remember MLC is a journey, it takes years from start to finish.

So proud of you. Confrontation never works with a MLCer but listening and validating can go a long way. Now, please don't wait for his next call/message, open yourself to the world and start something that can bring you some happiness a.k.a. GAL.

Meanwhile keep working on you, detach +++, when you detach you lessen your emotional pain and also the tension between the LBS and the WH. It's like wrapping your heart with bubble wrap, it absorbs the shock of their insanity before it hits you. Detachment doesn't mean you don't have feeling anymore for him but it means that you don't let his negative feelings/comments/sarcasms... to bring you down.
Next reading I might suggest is the thread on pursuit and distance. That's also something I did.

25yearsMLC is so right on target with her advice.