No, I don't get that point about reactivity. She was being obnoxious, so I left. I don't have to listen to that, so, to me, that was a boundary being set. I didn't say anything.
I don't have any other levers, do I? If she wants something, I don't do it. Surely that's DB in practice?
I think my problem is that I don't see manipulation from reconnection. Take Saturday where she wanted me to come over. I saw that as an example of maybe trying to reconnect, but it was probably self pity and manipulation. So, why did she make an effort? Do see the struggle here? When, or how, can you differentiate between somebody reaching out, or, somebody pulling to see the reconnection?
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
