MLC? Maybe you can tell me...

[Bird]

So... H emailed me a bunch of changes to the S agmt that he and his lawyer came up with. Mostly regarding money. He wants to reduce child support since he have them 50/50, reduce the length of time for alimony and put in a clause where alimony ceases if I get remarried or cohabitate with someone else.

We are selling our house. He is currently not paying anything and we agreed to keep the paychecks and bills being paid normally until the house sells and then close the joint account and he would start paying support and maintenance. I put in a clause to start paying the earlier of the house sale or 9/1 because who knows how long it will take the house to sell? He wants to remove that because he won't be able to pay support if we're still paying the mortgage on the house.

Lastly he wants to reduce alimony from the 7 years 7 months in the formula to 6 years 6 months. He mentioned "splitting the difference" in that the range for 20 years is between 5 years 6 months and 7 years 7 months. He left me and is dating someone else but I should somehow be penalized because he didn't keep his promise to me.

I am so angry and sad right now. 20 years of marriage. I was a good partner and a good mother. I took good care of my family and always honored my marriage vows. And it all comes down to money.

He sent me this super cordial, gentlemanly email - as though he's taking some sort of high road that absolves him of what he's doing to our family.

Also FYI - I changed my display name so I expect that will be different in a couple of days.