Hi everyone, I haven't posted in a few days, but I really need some "veteran" insight into the near future. I've been fully following the 37 rules since I found this forum, and possibly it is making a difference. I've totally backed off any contact. H has slowly begun to communicate with me, first with texts about bills, etc., then last week a random "how was your day?" text. I responded eventually with a very upbeat, my day was great, and listed a few things I'd done, all very GAL type things. I was polite but not really engaged. The texts have slowly turned into phone calls, and sometimes I answer, but sometimes I don't- just depending on if I feel like talking to him. I'm not afraid of losing him anymore. I already lost him once, and I survived. Now he's asked about his coming south for a visit..... I have very mixed feelings about this. My body and soul aches for him, and I very much want to begin a rebuilding of a relationship, but of course there is anxiety about opening my heart up again. Any thoughts on if I should agree to a visit, is it too soon, and if I do agree, what should that visit look like? I'm leaning toward saying OK, but that I don't know where I want this relationship to go, and since he has said he doesn't either, maybe this visit can be less heavy discussion about how we got here, what went wrong, and be more about just starting over and getting to know each other again, just having fun together. Please give me some advice! I welcome all honest thoughts and opinions!!!
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
